on Fear - "Awareness doesn't mind fear. Nor does love"
— Robert Augustus Masters
Fear can be an overwhelming defensive mechanism that aims to protect one's self from real or perceived harm. The threat could be physical, verbal, emotional or mental and it can arise if one believes that the self may be hurt, judged, attacked, rejected, ignored, mocked or bound to fail. It can crush opportunities and dreams. It can take over with lightning quick paralysis and ruin just about anything. It may be a real threat or just an idea.
What can be done about Fear?
If fear is like a muscle that has developed after tens of thousands of repetitions then it may take some time for it to fade and if courage is a muscle that has been left alone for far too long then it may take some serious daily practice to strengthen it. Fear has had too much influence on my life and I'm willing to work to be fearless! I'm going to trial and error my way to a system of freedom from fear for all.
The Process:
Step 1: Identify your fears!
You must find a mountain before you can climb it and you must become aware of your fears before you can apply courage to them! So.. Think about everything your afraid to do! If your too afraid to identify your fears then you know where to start! ;)
I promise that some of them will be hidden. If you think about what is evil or wrong you may actually find fear as well.
Step 2: Write em down!
Death is what I am most afraid of and I am not planning on dying to prove I'm fearless, but If I put death on my list, as I cross off fears perhaps death will appear different. Thats reason enough for me to write it down. To notice correlative progress! If you want to give them some sort of order.. Great! But we're crossing em all off so you don't need to.
Step 3: Choose 'Lil Fear and Conquer!
If you can't climb a hill you probably can't climb a mountain.. So try to conquer some fears and find out what you can do!
Step 4: Help!
This process may be scary so some help wouldn't hurt.
So.. How can this process be easier?
Ill use asking a girl out for these examples to give a related idea.
1. Take an alternative perspective - if you are to ask a girl out imagine perhaps that instead of asking her out, you are watching yourself ask her out from far away. So that you'll date her if she says yes but if she doesn't then its kind of like someone else asked her for you.
2. Detach from the outcome - imagine you were to instead ask out the ugliest, meanest, dirtiest, annoying girl ever. You probably wouldn't.. If you did however and she said no, how much would you care? Is it really that much of a loss? So you may be asking out the girl of your dreams but you have to detach yourself in the same way. Remove the expectation. Make less of the situation.
3. Visualize Success - So its like going through the ropes mentally first. Don't get hung up if it does not go how you visualize it but it will still help to give you some lines or confidence this way. Imagine her saying yes. Imagine what your sly tactics will be.
4. Get help from a friend - An introduction from a friend may ease some tension, or if you were to pick up random people at the mall (not recommended) then you may have more confidence with a friend.
5. Positive Affirmations - Tell yourself you can do it and believe it! Its similar to visualization. Try to generate courage by telling yourself you have it. "I think I can"
6. Reduce Casualties - Maybe asking her out alone will reduce the chance that someone else will be listening in and judging etc.
7. Learn from example - learn about what it is you want to do from pro's or people who were courageous in general. Brought to my mind is Harry Houdini.
8. Drink a beer - Don't be stupid though. COMMON! Alcohol is effective at reducing the constant chattering of the mind and one becomes more impulsive. This may seem like a bad idea but.. If you can ask a girl out after 5 drinks then try to do it in 4 then 3 etc.
Step 5 - Associative brain storming
Comfort, uncomfort, needs, desire, nudity, honesty, pain, anger, judgment, drugs, family, friends, acceptance.
That's all for now my friends.
I will be reporting on how this all works for me.
If you have any questions,
bring it to the forum or email me at [email protected]
What can be done about Fear?
If fear is like a muscle that has developed after tens of thousands of repetitions then it may take some time for it to fade and if courage is a muscle that has been left alone for far too long then it may take some serious daily practice to strengthen it. Fear has had too much influence on my life and I'm willing to work to be fearless! I'm going to trial and error my way to a system of freedom from fear for all.
The Process:
Step 1: Identify your fears!
You must find a mountain before you can climb it and you must become aware of your fears before you can apply courage to them! So.. Think about everything your afraid to do! If your too afraid to identify your fears then you know where to start! ;)
I promise that some of them will be hidden. If you think about what is evil or wrong you may actually find fear as well.
Step 2: Write em down!
Death is what I am most afraid of and I am not planning on dying to prove I'm fearless, but If I put death on my list, as I cross off fears perhaps death will appear different. Thats reason enough for me to write it down. To notice correlative progress! If you want to give them some sort of order.. Great! But we're crossing em all off so you don't need to.
Step 3: Choose 'Lil Fear and Conquer!
If you can't climb a hill you probably can't climb a mountain.. So try to conquer some fears and find out what you can do!
Step 4: Help!
This process may be scary so some help wouldn't hurt.
So.. How can this process be easier?
Ill use asking a girl out for these examples to give a related idea.
1. Take an alternative perspective - if you are to ask a girl out imagine perhaps that instead of asking her out, you are watching yourself ask her out from far away. So that you'll date her if she says yes but if she doesn't then its kind of like someone else asked her for you.
2. Detach from the outcome - imagine you were to instead ask out the ugliest, meanest, dirtiest, annoying girl ever. You probably wouldn't.. If you did however and she said no, how much would you care? Is it really that much of a loss? So you may be asking out the girl of your dreams but you have to detach yourself in the same way. Remove the expectation. Make less of the situation.
3. Visualize Success - So its like going through the ropes mentally first. Don't get hung up if it does not go how you visualize it but it will still help to give you some lines or confidence this way. Imagine her saying yes. Imagine what your sly tactics will be.
4. Get help from a friend - An introduction from a friend may ease some tension, or if you were to pick up random people at the mall (not recommended) then you may have more confidence with a friend.
5. Positive Affirmations - Tell yourself you can do it and believe it! Its similar to visualization. Try to generate courage by telling yourself you have it. "I think I can"
6. Reduce Casualties - Maybe asking her out alone will reduce the chance that someone else will be listening in and judging etc.
7. Learn from example - learn about what it is you want to do from pro's or people who were courageous in general. Brought to my mind is Harry Houdini.
8. Drink a beer - Don't be stupid though. COMMON! Alcohol is effective at reducing the constant chattering of the mind and one becomes more impulsive. This may seem like a bad idea but.. If you can ask a girl out after 5 drinks then try to do it in 4 then 3 etc.
Step 5 - Associative brain storming
Comfort, uncomfort, needs, desire, nudity, honesty, pain, anger, judgment, drugs, family, friends, acceptance.
That's all for now my friends.
I will be reporting on how this all works for me.
If you have any questions,
bring it to the forum or email me at [email protected]